Romancing The Ecards: Valentine’s Day Origins And Lore

by Tamara Colloff-Bennett on February 13, 2012

bear with balloons and quote from Winnie The Pooh

Nobody Can Be Uncheered With A Balloon

Sealed With A Kiss

Ever sign an ‘x’ on your email? Or use several of them in a real live letter or on an envelope (as in ‘SWAK – Sealed With A Kiss’), as we did so often for years before computers came on the scene?

Well, it is believed that the ‘x’ symbol became associated with the kiss in medieval times. This was because people who could not write their names had to sign in front of a witness with an ‘x’.

The people then kissed the ‘x’ to show they were doing this sincerely.

Two flower heads kissing with a quote by Ingrid Bergman that a kiss is a lovely trick designed by nature...

A Kiss Is A Lovely Trick - A Quillcards Ecard

Serious Pecking Across The Internet

Speaking of kisses, Quillcards has romantic images like this ecard with its evocative French proverb:

caraffe and cafe tables with quote lovers can exist on kisses and cool water

Lovers Can Exist On Kisses And Cool Water - A Quillcards Ecard

We also have quirkily romantic cards, like the sketched ‘kissing couple’ at the top of this article who are paired with a quote from the actress Ingrid Bergman who starred in the classic movie Casablanca.

To Wear One’s Heart On One’s Sleeve?

Okay, it’s the Middle Ages, and everyone wants a special person to be their valentine for that special day in winter.

So they write the down on strips of paper the names of people to whom they are attracted, put the slips in a bowl – and draw names to see which of them will be their valentine.

After this, they wear the name that they have drawn pinned on to their sleeves for an entire week so that everyone can see who is special to them.

This is the origin in modern times of our expression ‘to wear your heart on your sleeve.’

Religious And Societal Connections With The Day

So how did this official day of romance come about?

Well, I have seen several versions described of where this holiday comes from.

All say that we are indebted to ancient Rome for the holiday, for it was they who celebrated the Feast of Lupercalia on February 14th in honor of Juno. Juno, the goddess of women and marriage, was also the queen of Roman gods and goddesses.

I read conflicting information after that, including one source that claimed Pope Gelasius I established the holiday in 496 AD, while another version stated that it was centuries later in 1537 that England’s King Henry VII officially declared the holiday.

As far as the religious connection goes with the holiday, Pope Paul VI deleted the holiday from the General Roman Calendar of saints.

He did this only a few decades ago – in 1969.

The Heritage Of Courtly Love

In line with King Henry VII, it is said that the holiday become associated with romantic love in the Middle Ages through Geoffrey Chaucer.

Chaucer is considered by many to be the greatest English poet of the Middle Ages, and it was through his artistic circle that the tradition of courtly love flowered at this time.

It was also at this stage that Valentine’s Day evolved into a day when lovers expressed their love for one another through flowers, candy, and sending greeting cards known as valentines.

Curative Chocolate?

By the 1800s, a physician would commonly advise you to eat some chocolate if you were pining for a lost love.

Picking up on this, Richard Cadbury produced the first commercial box of chocolates for Valentine’s Day in the late 1800s.

And of course, millions of heart-shaped boxes of chocolate are sold for Valentine’s Day these days.

Say It With Flowers

Flowers are hugely popular to give on Valentine’s Day as we all know, and almost 75% of the people who buy them are men.

Interestingly, quite a number of women send flowers on Valentine’s Day – to none other than themselves.

Prompting A Proposal

Are you interested in moving on from romance to a more permanent union with your partner? Are you hoping to marry your partner, but he or she hasn’t brought it up at present? Want to strike a playful note?

Then this image with its quotation by the English illustrator and poet Edward Lear might help with the cause:

rose and ring and quote about marriage from Edward Lear

O Let Us Be Married - A Quillcards Ecard

A Fine Romance

Consider tragic love, and odds are high that William Shakespeare’s play Romeo and Juliet written in 1596 will come to mind.

No doubt this in part accounts for the fact that each year the Italian city of Verona where he set the play receives more than 1,000 valentines addressed to his fictional character Juliet.

If you enjoy the Bard and want him to be part of your declaration of ‘I love you’ this February 14th, here’s a card featuring an ardent, earnest quotation from his play Henry V.

Old Dijon with a Shakespeare quote: I Know No Ways To Mince It In Love

I Know No Ways To Mince It In Love - A Quillcards Ecard

Talk To The Animals

Hoping to strike a lighthearted stance with a love because you’re a bit shy about it all?

Then this appealing, pint-sized guinea pig might be what you are looking for:

guinea pig with the words 'but would you be my valentine'

But Would You Be My Valentine? - A Quillcards Ecard

The Rich And The Poor

Love and strong affection – where would we all be without it?

Or as an unknown author once wrote:

Without love, the rich and poor live in the same house.

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REFERENCES

Material On The Web
She Knows: Fun facts about Valentine’s Day

It Thing: 10 Interesting and Weird Facts About Valentine’s Day

The Juliet Club: Romeo and Juliet

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    Angela Boothroyd February 14, 2012 at 9:14 am

    Lovely post, Tamara.

    I didn’t know the origins of the idiomatic expression ‘to wear one’s heart on one’s sleeve’ – very interesting :-)

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    Tamara Colloff-Bennett February 14, 2012 at 11:30 am

    Many thanks, Sophie – yes, I enjoyed learning about the origin of that idiomatic expression myself.

    And here’s a thought: What if you couldn’t manage to fish out the name of someone you really and truly fancied, and yet you were wearing their name on your sleeve for an entire week?

    Not so grand, eh? :-) So I also wonder from a linguistic viewpoint regarding language if that’s where the negative quality we associate with the idiom as well came about.

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    Nick Lewis February 14, 2012 at 9:20 am

    Love-ly article :-)

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    Tamara Colloff-Bennett February 14, 2012 at 11:31 am

    Glad you liked it, Nick – and hey, cute pun there, thanks! :-)

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    Sophie February 14, 2012 at 11:19 am

    Nice with a bit of background to this mysterious love day.

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    Tamara Colloff-Bennett February 14, 2012 at 11:34 am

    Thanks for adding your interesting description of the day, Sophie – ah, what would love be without some mystery, yes?

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    Esther Hecht February 15, 2012 at 9:20 pm

    I enjoyed this very much, as I do all your posts. And I *loved* the animal valentine card, even though I’m not big on animals.

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    Tamara Colloff-Bennett February 16, 2012 at 2:50 pm

    Thank you so much for your compliment, Esther, it means a lot to me particularly since you yourself are such a fine writer! And hey, I’m glad to hear you really liked our guinea pig valentine even though you’re not that keen on animals. He’s such a cutie, eh? :-)

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